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The Art of Dressing Elegantly: For Women of a Certain Age (Introduction)

Aging can be traumatic for both men and women. The pressure to look good, however, is mostly placed upon women by an unforgiving society. Magazines, TV programs all feature women with flawless skin, lustrous hair, and gleaming smiles, wrapped (or unwrapped) in clothes that emphasize their shapely figures.

The process of getting old is unavoidable. No matter how much we fight nature’s course, time will make its mark on our faces, hair, and bodies. Those who can afford it spend a fortune on plastic surgery or regular non-invasive procedures to slow or counter the aging process. Some look terribly different from their former selves; others just look worse than ever.

Yet, women don’t have to take that direction. There are more reasonable options available to us. We really need to correct our attitude towards aging, but we don’t have to surrender to it. We can fight it gracefully. Mature women no longer struggle with the meaning of life or agonize over what they want in life. We know what we want. It doesn’t matter that we weren’t blessed with great beauty. We want to look good!

Sure, women have different tastes and styles in clothing. What we strive to achieve is elegance, whether casual or not. How does one explain elegance? Merriam-Webster defines it as refined grace or dignified propriety; dignified gracefulness or restrained beauty of style. It basically means propriety in both dress and manners. This article will attempt to focus on how we can dress elegantly without breaking the bank.

Whether we are in our 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, or older, we need to take care of our health. Practice good grooming, eat right, exercise, and stay active. Wear pajamas all day if you want, as long as you’re in the privacy of your homes. Once you’re outside those boundaries, you need to consider the propriety of your appearance. Make sure your clothes are clean and free from wrinkles; and your shoes clean. A little vanity never hurts. It can motivate us to take pride in ourselves.

We do not have to be slaves to fashion or spend a lot of money to look good. Choose clothes in classic styles that fit well and hide the flaws in your body. A simple wardrobe can consist of tops, skirts, and trousers in neutral hues (black, brown, gray, white); a few dresses, and jeans for casual wear. Your shoes and handbags can be in any color that will match or even enhance your clothes. What you buy depends on your personal style and finances.

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My Shopvida Design Collections

The holidays are fast approaching. Here are a few gift suggestions for your loved ones or for yourself: An art-inspired silk top (Steaming Rocks) or long scarves (from the top: Black Tupelo, Autumn Leaves, Glamour Girl)

To order, here is the link:





My Current VIDA Design Collection

The Purple Spray design did not meet the required 3 pre-orders so it will no longer be available for purchase. Currently, the following items from my design collection are available. Use the code VIDAVOICES to get 20% off your order. Here’s where to order:


Steaming Rocks Silk Top, $75


Glamour Girl Scarf, $40


Black Tupelo Scarf, $40


Autumn Leaves Scarf, $40

What a trip!

We just came back from a long trip (Honolulu, Kiritimati or Christmas Island, Manila, Bangkok, Siem Reap, UK) which took almost two months.  There were lots of mishaps in the beginning including (for me) a 2-hour flight delay from DC to Honolulu, (for us) an18-hour flight delay from Honolulu to Christmas Island, (for me) a dog attack/bite on the beach there, a missed art class in Honolulu I was hoping to attend, and my husband cutting his fishing trip short due to a skin infection.  From Manila, he flew to England to see his parents and was welcomed by rainy, cold, and windy weather.  I was luckier.  It was hot in Manila but not that unbearable.  The Eastin Grand Hotel Sathorn in Bangkok was nowhere near the scene of anti-government riots and demonstrations and the street food around there was just delicious.  Siem Reap was a wonderful experience.  The temples were magnificent, the people friendly and gentle.  I stayed at the Golden Temple Hotel and the staff could not do enough for its guests.  I will never forget the traditional Khmer massage I had there.  It was the best massage I’ve ever had. 

Empower Filipino Women

I just started a new petition and I hope you can sign — it is called: Responsible Parenthood for Filipino Women

For those against abortion, please note that the RH Bill, which was suspended indefinitely by the Philippine Supreme Court, does not legalize abortion.  All it does is provide free access to contraceptives to the nation’s poorest and sex education in schools.  This issue is very important to me, and I need your help to do something about it!

Campaigns like this always start small, but they grow when people like us get involved — please take a second right now to help out by signing and passing it on.